In a world increasingly dominated by phones, screens and constant notifications, one of the simplest human experiences is quietly disappearing: physical touch. A hug from a loved one, a pat on the back, or even holding hands can feel small- but science and psychology tell a very different story. Physical touch is far more than a gesture; it is a vital component for our mental and emotional well-being.
Touch is often referred to as the first language of human beings. “From the moment we are born, physical contact helps regulate emotions, reduces stress and fosters a sense of safety,” said Dr Arman Ibne Haq, an associate professor of psychiatry in Bangladesh Medical College. “After all, we are social beings, and without it, we can feel isolated, anxious and disconnected from the world around us.”
Indeed, research shows that even brief acts of touch can trigger the release of oxytocin, sometimes called the ‘Bonding Hormone’ or the ‘Cuddle Chemical.’ Oxytocin reduces cortisol, the stress hormone, while promoting feelings of trust, connection and contentment. This is why a hug from a friend or a reassuring hand on the shoulder can immediately ease one’s tensions or fears.
For children, physical touch is critical. Studies show babies who receive regular, gentle contact grow up with stronger emotional regulation, better cognitive development, and enhanced social skills. But touch matters for adults too. A supportive hug during a stressful day or playful physical interaction with peers can reduce anxiety, improve mood, and strengthen bonds.
In Bangladesh, however, touch is often undervalued. After all, the society here greatly undermines any form of emotional expression. The cultural norms, social reservations and the fast pace of urban life here mean that many adults grow up without the much needed and supportive touch of others. The lingering social caution following the Covid pandemic has also left an effect here.
Experts warn that this deficit can manifest in various subtle and long-term ways. “The lack of physical touch can be linked with increased anxiety, loneliness, difficulty forming close relationships and even depression,” said the psychiatrist. “It can create a sense of isolation in a person. Even people with strong online social networks can experience this. After all, digital interaction cannot fully replace the physiological and emotional benefits of real touch.”
This is not to say that all touch is beneficial. Safe, consensual and affectionate contacts nurture the brain and body, while unwanted or aggressive touch can cause trauma and stress.
Beyond individual well-being, touch has a social dimension as well. Regular, positive physical contact fosters empathy, cooperation and trust within families, workplaces and communities. It strengthens bonds in friendships, romantic relationships and even casual social interactions. In truth, touch is a language of human connection that transcends words.
For those craving touch in today’s fast-paced world, hugs among friends, holding hands with family, gentle massages, or even caring pats on the back can help. Practices like yoga or partner exercises, which mindfully incorporate touch, also help reduce stress and build emotional resilience. Ultimately, the healing touch of others is a prominent form of connection and emotional nourishment. It reminds us that we are not alone here. After all, we humans are wired for contact.
As Bangladesh navigates this era of urban stress, social media and digital interaction, we should not forget the simple acts of holding hands or hugging or resting a hand on a friend’s shoulder. In a society that often undervalues emotional expression, a simple touch is an essential thread that binds us together.
